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I don't understand at all, I have tried talking to a loved one over Gaia, and he never responds, He keeps logging off on me instantly and it has been a good 2 weeks since I have heard from him.....I don't know what to do or think on the situation...

That's rough. The internet is really a tough place to keep in contact with someone you care about.

It might be that your significant other is experiencing difficulties with internet (yes, sometimes the internet will disconnect you at random intervals -- which only complicates your life even more)... Or, it might be that he needs a little space.

If it has been two weeks, and you've seen him online but he logs off right as you're on -- that might be room for question. If there is a way, maybe just send a message that can be read later and ask, "Hi, how are you? What's going on?" and let it go until you receive a response.. otherwise, sometimes if you keep pressing continuously, that might tend drive people away.


If you want to talk, feel free to send me a PM.

I've left a message and it's sat there for a week, My friend has tried talking to him and she is able to get him to talk to her, but when she tells me to talk to him because he tells her he wants to talk he just...logs off..it's left me wondering if he really cares...so I gave him the space for a week...and still nothing, he got the message....but he never responded...

Sometimes you just have to let guys go. I'm partially assuming you only know this person through the internet -- and sometimes those kinds of relationships are hit or miss.

Regardless, relationships and strong feelings can be very frustrating. Take a deep breath and try not to get too overrun with the situation. It'll work out in some way or another.

I've know him before he moved really, so I do know him so he gave me his e-mail address...which his msn no longer works....so I talked with him over Gaia once I found him in a forum there without knowing at first, we've dated for a year but since he has moved so it is long distance...and now he decided to stop talking to me, onve he was told I would only be online for the weekends....thats when he suddenly stpped talking to me at all....only my friend...so it's left me concerned....and wondering if it's really worth it...and my friends are getting worried because they know I am not very stable emotionally at times...

Eek... well, first off -- don't let yourself ever get too down about a seemingly disinterested significant other! it's really not worth it at all to get depressed about it. Yes, there is no doubt it hurts like crazy -- but please, don't get irrational!

If you can't get a clear answer from him, then let things cool down a bit. Long distance relationships aren't very easy at all and both parties have to be willing to work through the fact that you're both far away. It isn't always easy.. and sometimes the best thing is to let it go.

Don't make any hasty decisions right away when you might not be thinking rationally.. do what you feel is right and what is best for you.

=/ I'm not rational, I'm not a person who thinks that cutting is the best, I have a fear of sharp objects anyways, so I take stress out on video games.

I feel like he's not telling me something though, he's acted different from the last time I was able to hear from him, so my friend is explaining to him to stay on, but I think it may be best to let go before something worse happens, I know what it feels like to have your emotions played so with long distance it is a risk.

I think that you meant that you're not irrational.

Infractus is absolutely correct in this matter.
Long distance relationships are always fragile.
Assuming the worst, he could have met someone else or just changed how he feels in the first place.

It's not your fault, though. These things just happen.
When you're the only one reaching out, that's when it's time to move on.
It's better for you to focus on yourself and what's best for you.

I do hope that this gets resolved though.

Yeah, I did, my mind drew blank for a bit XP

Long distance is fragile, I should have known sooner when he stopped telling me things like he used to.

I hope it does get resolved sooner or later....but it mght not turm out good in the end

Even if it ends on a low note, it's better than leaving the matter unresolved.
You'll be okay, it only means that there's someone even better waiting to meet you.

yeah somewhere.

=/ but things seem to be falling apart to a point....with errrrr....well he's talking again but he is in bad health...

Remember that if you think he might need help, it's okay to ask for him.
His family, teachers, or friends can help him pull through whatever problems he's having, if you can contact them.

if you think that this might be getting too serious for this section, you're welcome to contact me privately.

I did get contact last night...but what I was told was serious due to a his health condition....



it may be getting a bit too serious, but I'll keep your offer in mind